Hello Stranger…

It’s been a few days since posting up my blog. A hectic work schedule takes the blame. Not to say I haven’t been listening to the conversations around me. Seems many people are in the same boat. Overburdened. Within my circle of friends and colleagues its been a tough year. Many are struggling to make ends meet, dealing with illness, difficult family dynamics and loss. There comes a point of despair when it’s said, “Why me?” How do we find the joy of living when we are overburdened with dealing to live?  For sure, I don’t have answers to that level of mortality. But we can think about how to get through difficult times. Situations where all we have control over is our reaction. Many times we try to fight against our emotional responses. “I can’t deal with this right now” statements will bite you in the po po cause eventually… you WILL  have to deal with it all. In spades. Being uncomfortable with circumstances out of our control is the first step to unburdening yourself. There are many ways to start this process – prayer, meditation, talking, physical exercise and outward expression through the arts to list off a few.  The idea is not pushing aside your life but temporarily going with the flow of it. Giving yourself time to redirect and move forward with a clear mind. Accepting the current status quo not with defeat but impermanence. Knowing that within time everything can and will change. Maybe things will swing in our favor; maybe not. But we like everything else in this natural world belong to a ever changing chord of harmony. A chord sometimes filled with melodic visions of inspiration and joy. Other times dissent and jarring vibes of nothingness prevail. What we hope is that there is alittle of both to maintain the balance…the harmony… the peace within…the interest in living.  Keep your chin up, my friends.

When things are tough take 5-20 mins and unplug. Rest your mind. Breathe. Accept where are you today and embrace where you can be tomorrow.

I find great advice on dealing with everyday life through inspirational reading. One I really enjoy with a Buddhist slant: When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chodron

Hugs & wishes,

Brenda

~~Even in the darkest phase be it thick or thin, always someone marches brave here beneath my skin.~~

K.D. Lang

Someone’s Got My Goat…

Considered one of man’s earliest domesticated livestock, goats provided milk, cheese, meat, wool and companionship.  Relatively good natured beasts, they blended nicely with their other livestock counterparts. Folklore tells a tale of a goat in the stall of a horse or cow causing a calming effect on the other animal. Mischief makers wanting to bring bad luck or poor milk production would secretly remove the Zen-like beast from the stall. I wonder what the goat thought of it all? The saying ” Getting your goat” has no definite beginning.  Some say it’s a early 20th century prison slang word, others a welsh tale and some relate it back to the horse racing community. One thing is certain.  Don’t piss off a goat. It’s yoda-like instincts turn from sage to warrior. So what do we do when someone gets your goat? That unicorns and glitter part inside you battens down faster than you can say the words, “My Little Pony”.  Identity Threatening Action Alarm squeals out the call to arms.  Where is My Little Pony now? They have scattered for cover. Not a single beast stays except the goat.  Back turned away from the commotion and lazily trimming the green soft grass pasture called your happy place.  The mischief maker sneaking up on the goat, still so calm and seemingly unaware, yet inside the goat is waiting. Waiting to weigh its move. Unlike the other beasts it doesn’t pass judgement quickly and jump to conclusions. The goat waits to see what really happens. Then it can decide to defend, be passive or submit to defeat. But it’s a choice.

So like the goat,  we make the choice on how to respond. Even when the mischief maker causes great upheaval, really take the time to respond back. Usually you’ll see no response is warranted. Like the goat grazing in the pasture return to your everyday life uninterrupted.

Hugs & wishes,

Brenda

~~Don’t approach a goat from the front, a horse from the back or a fool from any side~~
Yiddish saying

I’ll Have a Glass Half Full, Please!

Mondays are a crap shoot at my house. 50/50 on how the week will unfold for us. My husband (nickmaned – Pookey from here on out) and I have a running joke when one of us is down.

“Are you sure your blood type isn’t Be Negative?”

Even on the darkest of days that little diddy can crack alittle sunshine of a smile. Being negative is easy. You can wallow and complain and really do nothing about it. Cause that’s how being negative rolls. One vicious vortex of doom around your mind. Creating a cloud cover so thick around you. Unaware you are a walking example of a someone with a looming black cloud over your head. Sharing this world as someone half empty of life. Now I’m not saying we don’t all those days where putting your head under the pillow is better. It’s how you handle those days that matters. Do you take that crappy feeling and slap it on your face everyday? Or do you get over it and realize tomorrow is another day?

Another day for something wonderful to happen; even something as wonderful as waking up to watch the sun rise. The Sun. An optimist’s best friend. No matter what-  it rises to meet the day and sets to live another. How awesome to have a daily coach there for you… everyday! Even when the clouds hide it the Sun is still there calling you out of bed. Encouraging you to welcome all the special moments of that day. Okay, I know several “glass half empty” persons are calling me on this. Okay need more proof why it pays to be optimistic. Here’s the list:

Optimistic people:

Live Longer

Live More Healthy Lives

are More Emotionally Stable

have Less Daily Stress

Believe in Themselves

Believe in their Abilities

Realize bad things that happen are just Setbacks

are More Aligned to their Goals

are More Persistent in getting their Goals Met

Take More Risks in Achieving their Happiness

Believe Good Things Happen because of Them and more will come

Yeah, that’s some awesome stuff there. So belly up to the day, Folks! Order yourself – hell, everyone around you – another round of glasses half full! Cheers!

3 Tips to Positive Thinking:

Ask yourself the right question. Don’t focus on the wrong stuff like what life just slapped you down with today. Focus on “What can I be excited about today?”

Start a “What I’m thankful” journal. Literally count your blessings

Write down what you want out of life. In detail. Takes up too much time, you say! Well, time is all you got in this life. Write and make it stick!

Hugs & wishes,

Brenda

~~Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.  ~~

Anthony J. D’Angelo, The College Blue Book

To Bee or Not to Bee…

Mondays…hard to not feel the pressures of our work and social week piling up already. Although planning is required in adult life, we forget the purpose of being mindful of the present. To be in the moment and live aware of the present. She is a sly fox, The Present. The ultimate “the one that got away” if we don’t pay attention to what we are doing. That feeling of life is going faster as we age…that’s us living more in the future or the past and not The Present. Let go of judging your years, months, weeks, days….by over planning. Leave some space for spontaneity and improvisation. Free yourself from the choreography of life once in awhile. Savor it. Breath it in. Move from what inspires you that second. Accept what happens and learn from it. Just be…

Hard to not be present with Spring unfolding around us. No excuse to not step outside and enjoy it. Take the scenic route today. Step out of your daily routine. Watch life move around you or jump in the mix. Smile lots and you will laugh more. Savor those moments in the present. Store today’s “present”  memories away in a happy place for those gloomier times.

Hugs & wishes,

Brenda

~~When the flower blooms, the bees come uninvited~~
Ramakrishna